Lee Mayimele

I like to use the phrase “the trash took itself out” to describe the departure of toxic people from my life.

I don’t know where I first heard it put this way, but it resonated with me.

Whether it’s toxic friendships, taxing family members, frenemies, cheating partners, or bad bosses, each time someone left, it was challenging to let go. These relationships had become familiar, and the fear of change and the unknown kept me hanging on longer than I should have. I also gave way too many second and third chances.

Initially, every breakup and severed tie felt like a personal failure. The manipulation, gaslighting, and narcissism had messed with my self-esteem and made me doubt my ability to set boundaries. But over time, as those toxic bonds fell away, my perspective changed. Looking back now, I am immensely grateful for each and every one that ended!

I began to set boundaries and prioritise better. The absence of negativity allowed me to focus on self-love, healthier relationships, and my personal growth. I became more resilient and self-aware.

My take now is that sometimes when the trash takes itself out, it’s just life’s way of decluttering my path.

I see you,

Lee